20% of marriages in Singapore are between
people of different backgrounds, different cultures, different ethnicities,
different religions even. That number
will grow, especially as more and more people in Singapore are from
mixed-marriages themselves. As a
Eurasian of Portuguese, every relationship I have ever had, including one
engagement, two marriages and a multitude of girlfriends, have all been
multicultural. There are less than a
thousand Cristao (Kristang), Portuguese Eurasians, and every single one
of them is somehow related to me. That
makes me a default expert on this by accident, not design.
All marriages are hard. All marriages have their challenges. If you fight with your boyfriend or
girlfriend, you go home to different houses and have space to cool off. Fight with your spouse, you go home to the
same bed and sleep with the enemy. A
multicultural marriage has the added layer of different cultural background. Some would consider this a complication. However, it might be a blessing. We give the other the benefit of the doubt
because we are not familiar with much of their culture, and let things pass. But two people of the same background
sometimes have the same baggage, and familiarity breeds contempt.
In summary, the challenges are no greater
or worse overall. Whether the marriage
works depends on how much work is put into it.
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